You go on mission for a flat stomach…because you blame your failed relationship on your spare tire.
You want to make more money…to keep up with the Joneses.
You decide to run your first marathon…and then get badly injured because you pushed past your limits just to get an impressive time.
You strive to be an active volunteer in your community…but you end up neglecting your own family.
You force yourself to drink green juice every morning…since all the cool moms are doing it.
What’s the problem?
The goals themselves can be solid personal growth tools. The issues arise when they are set by your ego, who is hell-bent on disturbing the peace and joy that you seek. When your ego sets a goal, her message to you is: you are not good enough. The sneaky devil rewards you when you reach the finish line, providing you with the deadly taste of temporary worth.
False victory, my friend. This explains why plenty of ambitious, philanthropic, hardworking, super-accomplished people in Hollywood are…train wrecks.
The Sell-Your-Soul-For-The-Goal Test
So how can you tell if your goal will lead to self-destruction? Ask yourself this:
Do the purpose, the process and the end-result of the desired goal…
…encourage you to live authentically?
…express your truth?
…contribute to your inner peace?
It’s a loaded question worth asking. If a “no” comes up anywhere in that response, abort the mission. Steer clear from weighing scales and kale juice for now.
You need to get grounded before you think about growing.
When you’re ready, by all means, be ambitious. Seek adventure. Grow.
The ego has gotten a hold of everyone’s dreams at some point. Which goals has your ego set in the past?
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I'm Nat Nanton, founder of Tutu Mama. Becoming a mother has made me commit to living my greatest life. If you can relate to that, you're in the right place.
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